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12 Unique Ways to Compliment Your Child

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Kids are like sponges. If we say positive things to them, it makes a big difference in how they feel about themselves! But my kids start to tune me out if I say the same things over and over, and a unique compliment can really help the message sink in.

For example, when my instinct is to say something general like, “good job,” I try to say something specific like:

That was a beautiful idea.
What a creative solution! 🌟
You worked hard on that problem.

My kids always make me proud, but instead of just saying, “I’m proud of you,” I like to tell them WHY I’m proud.

You were so kind to your friend.
What you did was really brave.
That was a really good choice.

It’s important for my kids to feel like they matter, want to know what I tell them?


Your opinions are important.
I know how much this matters to you.
I want to know what you think.

I tell my kids “I love you” all the time, but sometimes I like to switch it up…

I am so glad you are part of this family.
I love spending time with you.
I am thankful for you.

These phrases really help me feel connected with my kids — and I love knowing I’m helping to build their confidence. What are some ways you help build confidence in your kids?


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Robyn is Editor-in-Chief at ParentsTogether and is co-author of several NYTimes bestselling anthologies. She lives in southern Michigan with her husband and five children.