Lots of kids enjoy media that features mild violence or scary content, such as video games or action movies. If they’re old enough to understand that what they’re seeing is not real, this could be a perfectly normal curiosity or discovering their preference in genres—similarly to how some adults are drawn to horror movies.
But how do parents know whether scary or violent content will influence kids’ behavior or emotional development—and where to draw the line? Child development experts at the American Academy of Pediatrics recommend looking out for these signs that the content may be too violent or scary for kids—
- Violence without consequences: If a character doesn’t face consequences after committing a violent act, kids may think that behavior is acceptable.
- Not showing the victim’s pain: When kids see the victim in pain or suffering, they build empathy with the victim and may be less likely to act aggressively in real life.
- Use of weapons: Seeing weapons being used in media can make kids more likely to have aggressive thoughts and behaviors.
- Graphic violence: Scenes with blood, gore, or up-close violence can make kids more interested in the violent acts.
- Funny violence: When violence is shown as humorous, it can make kids less sensitive to the harm caused.
- Too-relatable characters: Kids are more likely to imitate violent behavior if the person committing the violence is someone interesting, attractive or similar to themselves.
Closely reviewing any media before your kid interacts with it is the safest course to take when trying to avoid content that features problematic violence or scary content, but that measure isn’t always practical for busy parents. If you are concerned about your kid’s media consumption, here are some steps you can take to ensure they aren’t exposed to harmful content—
- Find age-appropriate alternatives: Look for adventure, science fiction, and action content that’s rated appropriate for younger viewers.
- Watch or play along with them: Discuss any violence or scary scenes that come up to drive home the fact that what they’re seeing isn’t real, and violence in real life isn’t acceptable.
- Lock down their devices: Set parental controls, limit screen time, and try to reset their algorithm by clearing their search history.
- Blow off some steam off-screen: Let them try physical or adventurous activities like hiking, rock climbing, or trampoline parks to burn through some of that thrill-seeking energy.
As with most things, moderation is key. Review your child’s media consumption regularly to check for a healthy balance of content, and identify any potential red flags. If you are worried that your child has already been impacted by violent or scary media, seek the advice of a mental health professional or your child’s pediatrician.
